Why I Love Photographing Weddings
Well this weekend was a rather difficult weekend for me. Two weeks ago I mentioned that I received a subpoena to appear for the case involving my father’s murder which occurred 6 years ago. The guy involved with the crime wanted to challenge the sentence given to him since at the time he was only 17 years old. On Friday I had to appear and speak and explain why I did not think his sentence should be reduced. His entire family was there for proceeding and it was rather difficult hearing them plead for some leniency from the judge. The entire time his mother is crying and praying for her son. I empathized with his family but I told the judge that they could still communicate with their son. I can’t. I then went on to explain what my father meant to me as well as to his community, church and friends. To make a long story short it was a miserable day for me. After I had my say he looked me in the eye with tears in his eyes and stated that he did not kill my father. A part of me believes that yes he was not the main principal involved in the crime. But he helped in some way and he was there. Maybe he helped wrap my father’s body in the carpet as well as put him in the closet? I don’t know and I don’t care. I am going to continue trying to move on and in five years’ time when he has another opportunity to challenge the ruling, I may not attend. Anyhow this is the last time I will mention it here.
The one thing I am thankful for is that in the back of my mind I knew that the next day I would be photographing a wedding. You see Marcus and I have full-time jobs and although we wish we could make a living shooting weddings and portraits, we fear that ship has passed. We are both in our mid-thirties, married with children, have mortgages, car loans and college tuitions to think about. So although we charge for our services it is not our main source of income nor can we put in the work needed to transition into full-time photographers. Our time is simply limited and frankly, we don’t have the guts to do it :-).
While we were on our way to dinner for father’s day I mentioned to my wife that while I was in the courthouse I allowed my mind to drift to the wedding I would be photographing the next day. She told me that it sounds like I may use weddings to escape from reality. I thought about it for a few minutes and I realized she could be right. A large part of the reason I love photographing weddings is that everyone in attendance is genuinely happy. There are smiles, hugs and laughter all around you. The tears shed are usually tears of joy. As wedding photographers you can’t help but to feed off of all the positive energy and happiness in the room. I know that I am not the only one that feels this way too.
Last spring at Paul and Sophie’s wedding, Sophie’s daughter was giving a speech that was very touching. I remember seeing one of the vendors peeking from behind a wall and she had tears in her eyes while listening to the speech. I am so glad that I snapped the shutter and caught that moment. That is one of my favorite images from that particular wedding.
Each wedding we photograph we get to take home those memories and re-live them anytime we want. I mean the photographs are just a click away. To me that’s priceless, and I am pretty sure many other weddings photographers can relate to what I am trying to say.
Below are a few images from this Ralph and Carlita’s Wedding which occurred on Saturday held at Virtue Feed & Grain in Old Town Alexandria Virginia.